Many of us might get fascinated with the idea of marrying the person we love as early as possible, so that we can have more time to spend with each other. Although it is quite an appealing deal to get married to the person you love, but marrying young may also bring with itself a set problems and difficulties. Couples who are very young might face problems due to the lack of maturity to deal with tough situations. Maturity, which comes with age and experience, is very important for a healthy relationship. So here are some of the major problems that the couples face who marry young:
1. Matters concerning money
Money matters can strain the strongest of bonds, irrespetive of the age of the relationship. As it is the stage of life when people usually get their careers started, chances of the financial condition of young couples being not so good are therefore, quite high. They have to spend on paying off house rents, bills and other major and minor household expenses.
In addition, this is the age when people rarely do think of savings, and tend to spend more on things like travelling, shopping, dining out etc. Well, with more needs and less money at their disposal, the probability of fights to occur between the couples get higher as compared to the ones, who are financially settled through a fair amount of work experience.
2. Communication issues
‘Spending more time with each other’- the reason that probably prompts most young couples to marry early, might not be there anymore after the marriage. When young couples come across the responsibilities of their lives, they tend to work harder to fulfil them. Busy routines with work, hectic travelling schedules, pressure of achieving targets and goals, etc., might not really leave any time for any kind of communication by the end of the day.
This can also lead to problems in their sex life as either of the partners might always be tired and not up for it. Furthermore, stress and fatigue can lead to irritated attitudes, which can spark unpleasant conversations that further lead to arguments.
3. Feeling restricted
This can be majorly an issue with those couples who have separate friend circles, or even where either of the partners is a social butterfly and the other one is totally opposite. At young age, most of the people wish to party hard every day with the friends. However, if marriage creates restrictions in a person's social life and that too at an early stage of the life, then there are possibilities of tensions to occur between the couple.
4. Problems with the in-laws
Young people are usually quite impulsive. They like to live life on their own terms and do not like to be guided or advised by others on matters relating to their life. On the other hand, parents always advice on how to save your money after getting married, on leading a more sorted life, on prioritising life goals, etc. This is yet another problem that can upset the young couples, especially when either of the partners is given a piece of advice by his/her spouse’s parents.
5. Parenting issues
Sometimes, even the decisions pertaining to having children may also become the cause of conflict among young couples. In cases where either of the partners wants to have kids whereas the other one is not ready, can create stress in the relationship. The priority of couples, who become parents at very early stage of their life, might shift to the kids, which can create distances between the two partners.
Being in love and the feeling of not being able to live without each other is a great thing that can happen to those who are in relationship. But, if you decide to tie the knot at an early stage of your life, just ensure that both of you have matured in the relationship and are all set to tackle these troublemakers.
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