Komara Muthaiya: October 2014

Friday, October 17, 2014

How to Support Your Spouse During Tough Times

We all know that life is like a roller coaster ride. If there are good times, then there will be bad times too. Even among couples, turbulences do occur at times despite the efforts made by both the partners to keep everything smooth. This might happen if either of the partners faces tough time due to something which is not directly related to his/her better half. However, supporting and understanding your spouse during this testing time is the most important thing. If you want your loved one to bounce back, you have to act strong and help him/her to face the bad time. Here are few tips that will help you to support your spouse in hard times.

Do not be judgemental

When your partner has suffered enough because of a mistake or a wrong decision, the last thing he/she would want to hear from you is, your negative remarks about the whole matter.

Let’s say, you warned your spouse about one of his/her friends. But, a few days later he/she had a fight with that friend, and came back home in a furious mood. So, what are you going to do now? If you decide to say, “Well, I told you so”, then there are chances that your partner might never ask for your help or share any of the bad experiences with you again. Hence, you need to understand that he/she is going through enough pain already. So instead of passing on comments, try to make your partner feel better by distracting him/her through some fun activities, like sports, dining out, shopping, etc.

Be the source of strength

So, your partner got passed over for a promotion today? Obviously, he/she must be in a bad mood. But instead of asking, “Are you ok?” or saying, “I feel so sorry for you”, say that you have faith in him/her, and you know that he/she can handle this situation easily.

Saying sorry might make your partner feel even more disappointed, and the feeling of not being able to live up to your expectations might also arise. None of us like to be considered as a weak person, especially by someone whom we love the most. So, just show your support to your better half, and let him/her deal with the situation in his/her way.

Be patient

There might be times when your spouse will not share his/her problems with you due to some reasons. This might bother you sometimes, but you need to be patient in such cases. No matter what are the circumstances, always try to be an invisible support.

You can cook his/her favourite meal, plan a get together with close friends, give a tight hug and a kiss, anything which you feel will lift your partner’s mood. And when you feel that the time is right, ask if he/she wants to talk about the problem. But, do not pressurise and just let them know that you care for them, and they can always count on you.

The good thing about bad time is that it does not last forever. But being strong during such phase of life, and being the strength of your spouse at the same time will make your relationship stronger than ever. So, make sure that you take all the right steps for your loved one during their tough time.

5 Best Exercises For Women to Flaunt a Sexy Back

Backless or strapless dresses are very much in trend, and we all want to wear them on some or the other occasion. But, before stepping out in this sexy outfit, you need to make sure that you have a toned upper back. This is because, the back fat can spoil the whole look of your backless or strapless dress. And you definitely wouldn’t want that, right? Toned and sexy back always complements such revealing dresses.

So, if you want to know what all you can do to get rid of your back fat or bra bulge, here are some of the best workouts for your help.

1. Push ups

We all know that push ups are ideal for toning the arms, but what is lesser known is that they are great for reducing back fat. Follow these steps to do push ups rightly:

Just place your hands on the floor (in line with your chest); your feet together, making a straight line from head to heel (also called plank position),
Now, push up till your hands are absolutely straight.
Return to the starting position after that.
Do as many repetitions you can, but just be sure to maintain a correct posture.

2. Dumbbell one-point row

Here is another workout for you to get toned upper back:

Hold the dumbbells in hands, and then slowly raise your right foot backwards in such a way that your right leg and chest are parallel to the floor.
Now, pull the dumbbells straight up to your sides and then push it down slowly.
Switch the legs after eight repetitions and do the same with the left leg.

3. Swiss Ball Y-raise

You would require an exercise ball to perform this exercise.

Lie on the ball with face down and toes on the floor.
Now, keep your back straight and make sure that the ball is placed below your chest. Let your arms hang loosely on the ground with palms facing each other.
Then, raise your arms at 30 degree angle from your body, so that it forms a Y and keep raising them till they are in line with your body.
Hold your hands in that position for a few seconds before lowering back to the starting position. Do 10 repetitions.

4. Dumbbell Rear Lateral Raise

This is yet another simple exercise for a sexy back. Here is how to do it:

Firstly, take a seat and then grab a pair of light dumbbells.
Place the dumbbells right behind your heels, and raise the arms straight out on the sides.
While doing this exercise, keep in mind that you do not stare constantly at your feet. This way, you might strain your neck. So in order to make this exercise work best for your shoulders and back, look down but away from your feet in outward direction.

5. Superman

You will surely feel like one superhero with this workout. Just follow these simple steps to do this fun workout:

Lie in face-down posture on the floor, and spread your legs and arms.
Now, raise your head, right arm and left leg to about three inches.
Hold this position for few seconds before getting back to the starting position.
Repeat the same with left arm and right leg.
Once you are comfortable with this, do this by lifting both your hands and legs at the same time. Do eight to ten repetitions of this workout for best results.

So ladies, now you know about all the exercises that will sculpt your back. Incorporate these drills in your daily routine, and you will have a toned, beautiful, and of course sexy back in no time. You can then flaunt your strapless choli or backless dress with style and confidence.

7 Cutest Ways to Say Sorry that Will Surely Melt Their Hearts

So, you had a tiff with your partner over a mistake and now things have taken a turn for the worse. You are no longer in talking terms with each other and this thing is killing you. You have even realised your mistake, but you are wondering how to apologise to your sweetheart. Does it all sound familiar?

Honestly, small disputes happen in every relationship, but admitting that you are wrong and saying sorry is an important step to make your relationship healthy and happy one. We know that apologies are difficult to express; but if you say sorry with these creative and effective ideas, your partner will definitely fall in love with you all over again.

1. Desktop Love

Why not create a cute custom background for partner’s laptop or phone? Great idea, isn’t? Simply, hold a play card or a simple card saying “I am sorry” and snap a picture of yourself. If you can, then decorate the card with some cute pictures of both of you or some other artwork. And then, upload this image on your partner’s desktop, laptop or tablet and put it on sleep mode. Your partner will be definitely surprised to see your apology this way.

P.S.: Looking for something simpler? Put an “I’m sorry” wallpaper or screensaver on their laptop or phone, and let their anger melt away with your simple, sweet and heart-felt apology.

2. Say it with food

Bake a cake and use frosting to write, “I am sorry” on the top. Now, nothing can be more sweet, romantic and cute than this. And, we are sure once your better half sees all the effort you have made, you will be forgiven.

P.S.: You can always cook their favourite meal and leave a small note attached to the plate saying, “I am sorry. I know I made a mistake. Let’s make up please.” And to make it more special, a candle light dinner with their favourite romantic track playing at the background will not be a bad idea.

3. Sorry with chocolates

Nothing says “sorry” better than chocolates. Be it for the men or the ladies, chocolates are a sheer nirvana for everyone with a sweet-tooth. Either get chocolates customised to spell out the words “Sorry” or use chocolate syrup to write “I’m Sorry”.

P.S.: Instead of chocolates, you can always get some customised cupcakes made for them that will turn the bitterness in your relationship instantly with their sweet flavours. Make sure you get the cupcakes customised in their favourite flavours.

4. Go on record

Make a special audio recording for your special one. Start that with a small sorry message. Say that you are sorry and you will take care of such things in the future. Say that you want to relive the old moments with them and how much you love them. Along with that add a few apology songs. And, then you can add few songs which are your partner’s favourite.

P.S.: You can also make a video CD, where you can add some photographs of your special moments. You can also shoot the video at a special place, say where you first met or where you went on date or your home, etc. End the video with your sorry message. Either way your partner will definitely be charmed with your efforts.

5. Write for them

You can always write a poem and leave it on the desk, or kitchen table or any other place which they always use. Be sure your poetry rhymes. And when you see them smiling, come out and say sorry to them. Bending down on your knees will not be a bad idea.

P.S.: Instead of going for a serious poem, use your charm to write a funny one. And, hear them laugh their way to forgiveness.

6. Inflate the apology

Carry heart shaped balloons, saying “I am sorry”, some chocolates and knock on the door. When your partner opens the door, bend down on your knees, look over at them with puppy dog eyes and ask for his/her apology. You just can’t go wrong with this one.

7. Cute stuff

Guys, here is something special that will fill your lady’s heart with forgiveness and love- “I’m Sorry” teddy bear! Though slightly cliché, yet a cute stuff toy is a great way to win back your sweetheart’s love and apologise in the cutest way possible.

P.S.: You can get the stuff toy customised with a special message or your loved ones name. Or, you can just buy an “I love You” teddy bear, and stick an “I’m Sorry” note on it with a sad emoticon.

No matter how small or big a dispute is, saying sorry can always bridge that vacant hole. But be sure that you mean it when you say sorry to your partner. So, what are you waiting for, say sorry to your loved ones right now with these cute tips and woo them back again. And don’t forget to share your experience with me

Quotes

Life is to be lived, not controlled, and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.

Do not waste yourself in rejection, nor bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good.

Fanaticism consists of redoubling your effort when you have forgotten your aim.

Army of the Lord!

A friend was in front of me coming out of church one day, and as always the preacher was standing at the door shaking hands as the congregation departed. He grabbed my friend by the hand and pulled him aside.

The preacher said to him, "You need to join the Army of the Lord!"

My friend replied, "I'm already in the Army of the Lord, Preacher."

The preacher questioned, "How come I don't see you except for Christmas and Easter?"

He whispered back, "I'm in the secret service."

Thursday, October 16, 2014

RULES FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE

RULES FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE
Never both be angry at the same time.
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
If one of you HAS to win an argument, let it be your mate.
If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
Never bring up mistakes of the past.
Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your life’s partner.
When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking.

Quotes

Tomorrow is my exam but I don't care because a single sheet of paper can't decide my future.

Following the light of the Sun, we left the Old World.

He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.

Quotes

When you stop doing things for fun you might as well be dead.

Focus more on people who inspire you than the people who annoy you. You'll get much further in life.

The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving.

Welcome to the Family

A man went to meet his father in law to be and was chewing gum. The father in law shouted at him in a harsh voice.

Father-in-law: Young man, you're coming to seek my daughter's hand in marriage and you're chewing gum. That's a sign of disrespect!

Man: Sir, I only chew gum when I drink or smoke.

Father-in-law: You mean you drink and smoke, and you're here to seek my daughter's hand in marriage?

Man: Sir, I only drink and smoke when I go to the club.

Father-in-law: You club too?

Man: I'm sorry sir, I started clubbing when I came out of prison.

Father-in-law: You've also been to prison before? Oh my God!

Man: Sorry sir, I went to jail when I killed someone.

Father-in-law: What!!! You're a killer?

Man: Sir, I was angry because a certain man didn't allow me to marry his daughter, so I killed him!

Father-in-law: Oh! Okay.... You know what? You're highly welcome my son. You are on the right track. You're absolutely the right Man for my daughter. Welcome to the family

If You Want Me To Respect You..

If you want me to respect you,
hen I need you to respect me and my values in return…
if you want me to be happy with you,
then I need you to shed your false ego and understand me…
if you want me to be like I was before…
I’m sorry, I can’t….
your poisonous words and egoistic thinking has broken my trust and has hurt me deeply…
I don’t think I can ever be the same again…
every time I want to be like before,
your words start echoing in my head and I can’t love you the way I did before…
our relationship has lost it’s charm…
what we had is now gone…
I will tolerate you but I will not die for you……